I pride myself on being able to handle shit.
You know...when days/weeks/months get a little manic and the only way through it is...well, through it.
I’m a planner, an organizer, a do-er. I’ve always been asked: How do you do it all? Have a family, run a successful esthetics business...and now building a coaching business for the beauty & wellness industry? Isn’t it too much?
My honest answer was: Sometimes...but I truely love what I do...it gives me energy. And for months and months I have felt productive and excited to be moving everything forward. I've been working a lot over the past year... keeping a beautiful vision in mind.
But just when I think I’ve got it handled...I get a *smack* in the face with a 2x4. It’s only mission is to remind me that I’ve foolishly piled on too much.
Wa?? Moi? No way.
And so…I spent this weekend unable to even think about any of my businesses and worst of all, I felt disconnected from my personal life and family.
Seriously…I couldn’t even think on Sunday. I didn't even clue in that I was burnt-out. That’s how tired I was.
All I could think about is this: I need to replenish. I'm so tired. I need to take care of myself. I’ve got an empty tank. I need to fill up. I need to feel better.
But at the time I was so exhausted that I couldn’t even think of anything to do to make me feel better. So I read a bit of my novel. I slept. I walked to the beach.
It was at the beach I remembered Midas Camp last month, and Andrea J Lee spoke of the Aesop’s Fable of The Goose That Laid The Golden Egg. She shared with us that we need to remember this little story for ourselves.
I am the goose that lays the golden egg and if I don’t incorporate self-care as a way to replenish myself...there will be no more golden eggs have.
Huh. Right. I forgot about that part of Midas Camp.
So apparently I needed a little dose of ‘life lesson’ to steer me back on my track of my personal & business visions.
The lesson for me? Give some. Give some. Receive some. Foolishly, I gave to everyone else except myself for a while.
I was poking my poor goose constantly and wondering why I felt frustrated at how much work I had to do and resentful that I was last on my list for accomplishing anything.
What I forgot was that is was only up to me to manage my Golden Goose. Yes, I was caught up in a good old fashioned pity-party last week. So caught up, in fact, that I shifted into burn-out pretty dang quick. Silly me.
The lesson for me is this: I can’t wait for anyone else to ‘give some’ back to me. I do this to myself. I know I take on a lot and that can be ok IF I’m taking care of my Goose at the same time. I need to book some time for myself. A massage, lunch with my mom, an hour reading anything that isn’t business related, a nap.
Yup...I can do that.
Now...there was also another little nugget of wisdom from Andrea that plays into my burn-out weekend.
We all want the pearls of life. We work really hard to see that pearl emerge. However, much of life can be gritty, dirty, messy and complicated. Yes?
Well...pearls are made from grit. A tiny little speck of grit will produce a precious, beautiful pearl. And the bigger the grit, the bigger the pearl.
I ’m pretty sure I feel a pearl forming from this weekend.
Today I met my love at the beach on his lunch break and we had a lovely picnic and chat while the wind blew in our faces and the sun warmed our skin. I felt relaxed. My Goose said 'thank-you'.
I also have a Psych-K session booked for tomorrow with my friend Darcie in another step to taking care of my Golden Goose.
And even though my emotional state totally sucked this weekend, thanks for the lesson, dear life. It was much needed and appreciated!
So…have you experienced burn-out? How have you handled your come back? And what do you do for yourself now to take care of your Goose? Leave your comments below. I'd love to hear what you have to say!